Each person sees the same statements and the same four choices: Not true for me, A little true, Mostly true or Very true. When both people answer a statement, we compare those two choices.

Some statements ask about direct overlap, such as whether sharing a strong kink interest matters. Others ask about complementary roles, preferred pace and intensity, how often kink should be part of your time together, privacy, the line between fantasy and something you might try, and room for differences.

Each comparison begins with the answers you give during the shared test. Personal quiz profiles and scores from separate results do not enter into it.

If either person skips a statement, we leave it unanswered. A skip never becomes the lowest answer. AAPOR's survey guidance also distinguishes a missing response from any answer choice.

We count a statement as a match only when both people chose Mostly true or Very true. A little true, Not true for me and a skip do not meet that threshold.

Two identical low answers are agreement, but they are not a mutual positive match. The purpose of this result is to reveal common positive ground while leaving lower and unanswered choices out of view.

We label a statement Very true for both only when both people chose Very true. All other qualifying pairs receive the label Mostly true or Very true for both. These labels describe the two answers. They do not tell us how important the subject is to either person.

Person one answers first. When they finish, the screen clears for handoff. Person two then starts with a clean question view, with person one's answers hidden.

While person two answers, we keep person one's choices for the comparison but leave them off the screen. The final page shows the matching statements and the shared count. It leaves out both full answer sets, who chose which answer, and the statements that one person rated lower or skipped.

There is no account, invitation link or saved comparison to return to. Starting over clears both sets of answers, and reloading the page begins a fresh comparison.

This gives two people some privacy while they take turns on one device. It cannot protect answers from someone who controls or monitors that device, so the result is not anonymous.

The result says how many mutual positive matches you had out of the statements both people answered. If both people answered a statement, it enters the second number even when one or both answers were low. If either person skipped it, it enters neither number.

We also show every matching statement with one of the two answer labels. A pair with three matches out of 12 therefore has three shared high answers among 12 statements answered by both people. It is not a score of 25 out of 100.

We report a count, not a compatibility percentage. A 2024 study comparing profile-similarity measures found that the choice of measure can change the conclusion. Our 12 statements give us no sound reason to choose a formula, weight some statements more heavily or claim that one percentage describes a relationship.

A count still reveals something about two known people's answers. NIST's introduction to aggregate-data privacy explains that aggregation alone does not guarantee privacy, especially for a small group.

Liking the same activity is only one kind of overlap. Two people may also agree that complementary roles matter, prefer a similar pace, want the same balance between fantasy and real-life curiosity, or feel equally strongly about privacy. Another pair may share a kink but answer differently about intensity or how often they want it to be part of their lives.

The comparison includes statements about flexibility too. Being comfortable with a gentler version or supporting a partner's interest without adopting it as your own can be shared ground, even when an activity list would show a difference.

Each match still refers to one broad statement. It cannot tell whether you pictured the same activity, role or situation. We show the wording so you can see exactly what matched.

We do not know which statement matters most to either person, whether you understood it in the same way, or whether a difference concerns a firm limit, a mild preference or simple uncertainty. The comparison also has no information about how you relate outside these 12 answers.

A shared count cannot predict relationship quality, decide whether two people should be together or recommend an activity. It answers one question: where did both people give a positive answer to the same statement?

For the wider relationship question, our kink compatibility guide looks at roles, priorities, differences and expectations in practice. Here, we stick to what happens in the shared test and how to read its result.